妈妈和小孩之间的沟通 No. 4

妹妹，转眼已经6岁啦。

看着你那对长腿，妈妈已经抱不到你啦。

现在，两兄妹在自己的房间睡。哥哥习惯了，妹妹还不习惯。每晚半夜，自己会走进我的房间，起初会站在我床边叫我。妹妹啊，妈妈被你吓倒无数次了。哈哈哈。每次你都问，妈妈，我要和你睡。当然，我是点头的。可是，现在的你，自己直接走上床睡。

妈妈也没有怎样， 只是忽然位子变窄了，被子给拉了过去。转过去看，你这小瓜睡得蛮香甜的，也不忍心弄醒你。有时我会想，其实妈妈还可以和你共睡到何时 ？ 虽然说，是时候给你练习独立，就像哥哥那样。可是，每次你紧紧的拥抱，你这丫头，就是会让人心暖。怪不得你爸爸也会想你。

你那霸道的行为，你蛮会欺负哥哥。所以，我不会因为你是老幼，就放任你。我还是会惩罚你。哥哥有错，也要惩罚。

其实，真的是爸爸把你宠坏了。就是因为宠坏，所以每当你被爸爸责骂，你会很伤心的哭。有时看着你们在玩，也真的很开心。哥哥有时会“失宠”， 这时妈妈的我，也会叫哥哥加入。哥哥其实很保护妹妹，他真的很爱妹妹。只不过，妹妹有时真的很会弄哥哥生气哦。

我也不知道这样做好不好，我一直会和他们两兄妹说：你们是哥哥和妹妹，妈妈不要你们打架，也不要你们吵架。谁都不可以欺负谁，要互相爱护，相亲相爱。哥哥比较懂事，很多时候都会让着妹妹。当然，妹妹也会让下哥哥的咯。

妹妹，当你哭着说要妈妈，当你跑前来抱着我，看着你，你这小娃，妈妈真的很爱你。

给孩子的信 1

05-03-2016

刚才看了网络转载的一篇短文，好感动哦。

宝宝的你，一直很粘妈妈。妈妈有时累的会埋怨。但是往往你开心的笑容，你的一举一动，都是牵着妈妈的心。是妈妈开心的最重要的泉源。

3岁的你，望着你的背影，走进幼儿园。心中的滋味，真的有喜有忧。还记得放学去接你，当你看见我，你立刻奔跑去我面前，抱着妈妈。那时我的眼泪不断在眼中打转，很努力的不让它流下来。过一段日子，你习惯了幼儿园的生活，每天你都很期待去学校的样子，你开始学会独立了。

7岁的你，踏进小学的校门，妈妈知道你会不适应，那时尽量安慰你，好让你接受新环境。从那时开始，妈妈知道你会认识更加多朋友。所以，妈妈每天在载送你学校的路程，尽量和你多谈天。妈妈要了解你在学校的动静，每次和你谈天，妈妈都能感受到你真的喜欢在学校的生活。妈妈谢谢你，愿意和我分享一切。当然，有时你弄妈妈生气，妈妈也会教训你。

妈妈开始想象，踏入中学的你，那时你应该很独立了。感觉你在家的时间也会渐渐减少吧。

妈妈和你说过，如果能够，到国外留学。不是妈妈要你离开，妈妈想要你有更好的将来。希望你能大学毕业，为自己的路，好好规划。

说真的，妈妈希望你们两兄妹，要合心，要互相敬爱。每次妈妈都说，你们两个不可以吵架，不可以打架。谁也不准欺负谁，要相亲相爱。哥哥要照顾妹妹，妹妹要听哥哥。

可能你们会认为妈妈真的很长气哦，很唠叨。哈哈，孩子，妈妈很抱歉哦 ！ 

等你们长大后，还会像现在那样粘我吗？ 妹妹每次那紧紧地拥抱，每次都溶化妈妈的心。哥哥腼腆的抱抱，真的会到达妈妈的心深处。

现在你们还小，可能还不明白妈妈的心意。没关系，等你们长大后。妈妈会让你们看看这天妈妈记录下来的心情。

妈妈爱你们俩。

妈妈和小孩之间的沟通 No. 3

05-03-2016

昨晚和孩子的对话：

孩子：妈妈，刚才A同学说B同学的公公四了。

妈妈：哦，那你有安慰B同学吗 ？

孩子：不是，其实她的公公还在的。B同学公公只是去了外坡，所以没有来接她放学。

妈妈：啊！为什么A同学要这样讲话呢 ？             

孩子：老师有教训他。

妈妈：（心理忽然间有一种想法）那么你觉得A同学这样的说法真确吗 ？

孩子：不对。B同学很生气哦。

妈妈：是咯，为什么要这样来讲别人的家人 ？很不礼貌的说法。

孩子：。。。。。。。

妈妈：孩子，如果A同学对你说这样的话，你会怎样 ？

孩子：叫他不要乱讲话

妈妈：也可以，你可以反问他，你喜欢被人家讲这样吗 ？

孩子：如果他说喜欢呢 ？

妈妈：那么你就告诉他 - 我不喜欢。而且，你这样不礼貌，只会让人讨厌你。孩子，你要懂得怎样分辨对错。不要因为他是你的朋友，你就要跟着他的方式。如果你听到A同学和你们讲任何东西，你可以告诉妈妈，好吗 ？

孩子：好的，妈妈。其实老师也有讲他。

妈妈：对啊 ！ 老师知道那是不好， 不礼貌的话。所以，才教训他。好让你们知道，不好的东西，就不要去学。

孩子：知道了。妈妈。

其实，我在想，为什么这位A同学那么没礼貌 ？ 他不止一次这样乱说话了。奇怪，难道他家人没和他讲基本礼貌吗 ？ 他看到我的孩子和其他人参加球类运动，他竟然对我说以下这番话：

A同学 ：阿姨，你给他参加排球，你不怕他变笨吗 ？ 而且，会断手断脚哦。

我听了，笑笑对他说：A同学， 什么运动都会有它的危险，一点小擦伤是难免的。不会断手断脚啦 ！有运动才能保持身体健康，保持头脑清醒啊。难道你没参加任何运动吗 ？ 

A同学 ：有啊，我很会游泳的。不会断手断脚

我：好啊，游泳也不错。不过，游泳也会有危险的。不要大意哦。

我就想，为什么这孩子可以如此无礼 ？ 到底是他家人教的， 还是他听到 ？ 

所以嘛，家里的教育 / 沟通， 真的不能忽视。所幸我和孩子一向都有维持交流。他会和我分享他听到 / 看到的事物， 而我的方式， 就是和他谈天，然后和他分析， 好让他明白很多事物不要只看表面，让他思考对错。因为，我不想孩子是应声虫， 不是我要怎样就怎样， 我是要他会分辨是非黑白。有自己的思考方向。

妈妈和小孩之间的沟通 No. 2

今早，带着小孩去学校。

现在他会要我把车停在路边，然后和他一起步行去学校。

我问他，妈妈要一直牵你的手，可以吗 ？

他笑笑，不出声，可是他脸上看得出很开心。然后，我就牵着他的手。可以知道他好像很满足，很开心。

到了楼梯边，他就和我说再见。我看着他慢慢步行进去，在我的视线消失后，我就跑回去车。一路上，我在想，到底我还可以牵他的手到何时 ？ 

其实，我每次和他谈话，我会问他，妈妈可以抱你到几时 ？ 如果妈妈老了，头发白白了，你还会要抱妈妈吗 ？ 他带笑摇摇头。可是，过后他会紧紧地抱我。

孩子，对我来说，只要我可以抱你们或牵你们的手一天，我真的很开心, 很满足。这也是我一天开始的正能量。

每个晚上孩子睡前，我会和他们抱抱和亲一下，他们才进去睡觉。已经成为习惯了，到现在，他们会自动跑前和我抱抱，然后亲一下，再说句晚安，就进去房间。不过，每次都可以听到他们在房间嘻嘻哈哈，然后要我喊蛮多次，他们才会乖乖睡觉。

他们两兄妹，其实也算不错了。不会太难搞，太刁蛮。就像昨晚我们出外吃饭，隔壁坐着一家人，两个分别应该只有1岁和2 或 3 岁的小孩。那个1岁的在闹脾气，一直在哭，比较大那位就一直在吵。我的孩子一直看，然后我就和他们说不要一直看过去，没礼貌。他爸爸甚至说，如果你们再看，你们就坐去那边。我那两个小瓜，立刻快快转过来。哈哈。

我老公问，他们两个以前有没有这样哭闹 ？ 我印象中好像很少，对吗 ？

我答 ：不是很少。是没有。他们以前这样的年纪从来不会这样哭闹。

跟着我说，你看下他们的妈妈是谁，哈哈。我有我的方式带小孩 / 教小孩。这就是为什么以前我说小孩还小，不要在每次用餐时，要把他抱开。其实，这是一种不好的习惯。以前他们还小，如果和我老公家人吃饭，不管是在家或在外，那做婆婆的，她快快吃完然后要抱他们出去走走。就是这个小动作，让小孩不会乖乖坐着吃。

所以，那时我会反对。我知道我家娘不喜欢，她甚至和我老公说我不让她抱孙子。我和老公解释，这是在教导小孩。我不管他们在后面怎样说我，我就是要这样做。

当我老公的弟弟们全都有自己的小孩，一样婆婆就是会把小孩抱开，就连那公公也是如此。而他们还要做给我看，好像在告诉我，看我们的小孩会让公公婆婆抱。很抱歉，我并不会不开心。到他们的小孩长大一点，当他们吃饱了，开始会吵大人，要出去走走，这时大人都在吃。一个推一个，然后就拼命叫小孩不要闹，或者用冷饮来引诱他们不要闹。又一个错误的教导，所以他们的小孩，知道要闹就可以顺利得到某些东西。

反而，我这两个，吃饱了就乖乖坐着。当然，他们看见其他小孩可以出去，为什么他们不可以，这时我会和他们解释。不过我也会让他们走动下，那时他们已经长大了。一个条件，让我吃完了。还有，要在我视线范围内，不可以走远。而我也会站在一旁留意他们。

这时，我会听到那做婆婆的说，我这两个小孩很乖，会好好坐着吃饭。不像某某某，一直要吵着走上走下。然后，那些爸爸们就说，是咯，我的这个很会吵等等 。。。 

我心说，那是你们造成的。当初你们在我面前说了那些有骨的话，而我老公也从来不解释，我就这样被你们边缘化。现在，你们才明白我的用意，已经迟了。

我和我小孩的沟通，尤其是哥哥，我会和他谈天。每次都让他知道一些学校课外的知识。因为我工作的关系，我会给他知道，屋子是怎样盖的，碰巧他的学校在加盖新课室，所以他会问我一些问题，而我也能给他答案。而他也会和我分享他一些事，这就是我要的。

建立良好的关系。

03-08-2015 孩子真的长大了

很久没分享孩子的生活点滴了。

哥哥今年已经8岁了，妹妹也已经5岁了。时间过得真的很快。哈哈，不想认老也不能啦。

当哥哥就读幼儿园时，为了上小学的事情，而忙了一段日子。 上了一年级，哥哥因为不适应而让我这做妈妈的头疼一段时间。后来，当他适应了，连便当都不要带了。享受在食堂买小吃，和朋友一起用餐的时光。

妹妹呢，因为她一开始就和哥哥同一间幼儿园。所以，她就不会怕陌生。反而，在学校好像有一点小地位，哈哈。皆因哥哥是成绩不错，老师们都爱的一个学生。导致妹妹好像也沾了一点小小的光荣。妹妹是个很“精”的人，和哥哥不同。哥哥比较老实，没有妹妹那么蛊惑。嘻嘻 ！ 所以啊，时常都是妹妹把哥哥弄哭。

今年，哥哥2年级了。每天早上，送他去学校时，我和他都有些简单的对话。什么都说，我试着多点了解他的心意，和他谈谈学校 / 娱乐的一些东西。我会把我一些做工面对的东西，和他分享。放学接他回家也是，他会告诉我当天在学校/补习那里的事情。每天都如此，已经习惯了。发觉和他谈天也是一种解压的方法。

想着想着，哥哥还有4年时间，就小学毕业了呢！要进入中学了，啊，真的好快。现在开始又要想想，要让他就读那间中学了。国中 ？ 独中？还是让他去国际中学 ？ 为他将来出国继续深造来打算 ？

我试过问他，他却很直接告诉我，他要进独中。就像他表姐表哥一样，读独中。

我想让他就读现在和他小学很靠近的国中。一，妹妹还在那小学读书。二，不需要走不同路线。三，省时间。哈哈哈。如果在同一区的学校，至少避开了堵车的问题，我同时可以载他们啊。 那间中学，其实也是不错的学校。说真的，这里每间学校都是有好有坏。说到底都是看那学生本身，是否会自爱，不容易被人影响。但是，也不能完全忽略校方可以提供怎样的教育程度，和老师们的态度。这一切都是要加以考虑的因素。

4年时间，说长不长，说短也不短。算一算，现在已经8月份了。明年他就进3年级了。唉，真的不到你说，时间就是一眨眼就过了。

你可以说我多想了，时间还早呢 ！可是，当你仔细算一算，并不是如此。看来，我的白发又要出现好几条啦！因为，还得为妹妹想，是否继续让她跟着哥哥的脚步 ？ 暂时来说，就让她跟着哥哥的脚步吧 ！ 

妈妈和小孩之间的沟通 No. 1

19-05-2015

昨晚， 和小孩温习课外习题。

孩子在读以下提问：北极熊是肉食动物吗 ？我们的对话就开始了。对话后，我的感想：妈妈也要开始温习课外问题了。

孩子：妈妈，北极熊是肉食动物吗 ？
妈妈：是，它们是吃鱼的。你知道北极熊是什么样子的吗？
孩子：不知道。
妈妈：这就是北极熊啦！（把电脑屏幕给他看）
孩子：妈妈，北极熊好可爱。它住在什么地方 ？
妈妈：它是住在北极的，一个很冷的地方。
孩子：为什么它要住在那里 ？ 为什么不是在这里 （指热带地方）？
妈妈：北极熊只是在北极的，它们只能够在冷的地方生存。如果它们在热带地方，它们就没
            办法存活。
孩子：为什么会这样 ？为什么只能在冷的地方生存 ？
妈妈：这个嘛，因为它本身的身体构造啊！它体内有很厚的脂肪保护着， 所以它不怕冷。
            如果它在热带地方， 脂肪会让它体温上升，它就会很辛苦。
孩子：什么是脂肪 ？
妈妈：脂肪是身体里面的“油” 。。。哈哈哈。是用来保护我们的身体。
孩子：那么，它可以在比较不热的地方吗 ？ 意思说：气温不热也不冷呢 ？
妈妈：不可能，它只能在寒冷的地方。因为它的脂肪太厚了。
孩子：妈妈， 北极在哪里 ？很远吗？
妈妈：当然远啊 ！哪里是一个很冷的地方，整片土地都是雪。
孩子：我们可以去吗 ？ 要多久时间 ？
妈妈：是可以去，不过太远了。而且，现在也没有旅行团去那里。
孩子：我希望可以去看北极熊。
妈妈：可以的，可是不是现在。你现在最重要是把功课做好，努力学习就好啦 ！


妈妈心里流了一大把汗。

生男 ？ 生女 ？ 你怎样看 ？

我忽然间，脑海里出现这个话题 ~ 生男 ？ 生女 ？ 你怎样看 ？哪一个比较重要 ？

我是两个孩子的妈妈。我有一男一女，刚刚好！我不是要“夸”自己，真实来说，两个孩子都是我的宝贝。我从一开始怀孕，我的脑海里，心里都是想着同一个信念 ~ 我希望我可以平平安安 ，顺顺利利，生下一个健康的宝宝。

在我的身边，有好多朋友都说我很会生，有一男一女。他们会问到底有什么方法或秘诀，因为他们很注重性别的问题。有些做了妈妈的朋友就会问同样的问题，第一胎生了男或女，第二就想尽方法要生一对。很抱歉，我真的不知道。

其实，为什么要那么在意呢？始终都是自己的骨肉。

每当身边的朋友诉说怀孕的事情，我都会心寒。有一些孕妇不是那么好运气，听到很多不好事情，小产，不健康，宫外孕，血糖过高，贫血，胎位不正等等问题。如果可以平平安安 ，顺顺利利，生下一个健康的宝宝，已经是很好的福气了。


每当朋友问到我要如何生男或生女时，我都会答：顺其自然。不要太过于强求。

在我怀孕的时候，我每天都祈祷，我只要平安顺利，孩子健康就好。我也会担心宝宝在肚子里面怎样了？每次去复诊后，心里都会安一点。到最后那3个月，会开始怕，怕宝宝在里面会发生不好的东西。但是，我每天都告诉自己，要乐观，要和宝宝讲话，就这样，我从担心变成期待。

当宝宝平安出世，我第一时间就和宝宝说：我是你的妈妈，宝贝。

小宝宝平安出世，真的，已经是最大的福气，要感恩了！

About Myself (1)

I was born in a small town call 'Membakut'.  I am the youngest in my family where I have 4 brothers and a sister, of course my parents also.

I study at the local primary school till UPSR.  I remember when I was young, I think I am around 9 or 1 years old, I almost die in a lake.  Thanks God, someone save my life.  If not, I never had a chance to live until now.

In Primary 4, I started to follow competition like story telling contest, speech contest and singing contest.  I like dancing and I almost participate everytime.  I am kinda a "famous person" in the school.  In Primary 5, I won a champion in speech contest for the whole Beaufort area, then I have a chance to go for State contest.  Although I lose in State contest but its really help me to get a lot of experience.  

In Primary 6, yes, I join the speech contest again and again I won the 2nd runner up and again have a chance to enter in State Contest.  However, I lose again in State Contest.

I also got the chance to enter singing contest in Sandakan where met with all contestant from all around Sabah. Hahaha ... of course I didn't get Top 5 place but is enough for me to earn an experience in my life.

Well, after completed my Primary education, my parents let me go to KK to strengthen my education base.  I have enter to SM Stella Maris Secondary School.  In the first semester, I totally can't believe myself as I only manage to score no 20+ in a class.  My sister was so angry to me and of course I also feel sad on my exam result.  From there I totally understand that my education base was far behind from others.  May be this is the difference of small town education and KK education standard.

For the 2nd semester, I started to study harder and of course I got improvement but still not in top 10.

But I am consider ok as I was been placed to Form 1 A class.  I told my family that I am in the Top class and will study hard to get the best result.

Actually I am not a very clever student and what I can do is maintain my result and still able to stay in Top class until Form 3.  And, I am very active in sports also.  I learn how to swim, play basketball etc .. Feel that I am not a girl course I am a bit "boy" style. haha

I scored 7 B in my PMR exam and I have choose to study in Commerce.  For the last 2 years in Secondary school, I feel glad and I manage to score Grade II in final exam - SPM.

After SPM, I go to search for further information on abroad study, and the place I wish to go is Japan.  I got a lot of info on that.  I like Japan and feel really want to learn Japansese.  I found a teacher that give me private tuition on learning Japanese language.  

At the same time, I took a Computer Study course at Informatics Institute.  Actually I don't know what to study at that time, and my eldest brother advice me to take computer course.  I feel happy to learn it but only I don't like Computer programming.  I failed some of the exam and lucky I passed when I re-sit.

During that time, I on trying to get a job.  I notice there are so many Offshore Banks in Labuan, including Japanese Offshore Banks.  I get some info from my classmate, whereby some of them come from Labuan.  I try to apply the job and finally I got my 1st job in The Industrial Bank of Japan, Ltd., Labuan Branch.

I met my boyfriend through my classmate.  When I work in Labuan, he also the same.  His relatives are local Labuan.  I was staying in my classmate house in Labuan but soon I moved out to stay with my colleague who from KK also.  

May be I am still young, I always quarrel with my boyfriend or even break up with him several times.  But one thing I have to admit that I am very stupid girl that believe him.  End up, he is my first man in my life and from there I take him as so called "husband".

After one year with him, there is one day I got so called 6 sense where I notice a difference from him.  I straight away asked him is it he got another girl friend ?  I still can remember his face reaction was so surprised.  He asked me back how I know ... ya, I knew it.  I cried and feel very very very sad.  We broke up and he go back to KK.  I feel so lonely as I don't have many friends beside me at that moment.

I am a most stupid girl that have been cheated. 

I just don't know why I still accept him back ?  May be at that time, I really in love with him.  Nut thinking back, I feel that I am really really big stupid girl.  Why I just let it go and my life will be different from now.

5 years in Labuan, means 5 years with him.  Then I choose to come back KK as my parents getting old.  I started to look for a job in KK.  Unfortunately, the pay ...wow, is quite low compare to what I earn in Labuan.  Lucky I stay in my parents house, so I still can survive. 

He also come back to KK and looking for a job in KK.  I was working in a Insurance Company and I asked him whether he want to try to work with me or not.  He was accepted by my Branch Manager and from there we work for about 3 years.  One thing I admit that he is a clever person, my Branch Manager like him a lot.

Then I change job to Bank, where we decided to get married.  My worst job in my life !  Working hours is long and he always complaint me on that.  He always said he need to wait so long time outside the Bank.  Ask me to finish faster and so on.  I can't take that pressure so I change job.  Still the same ... my Branch Manager required me to arrive office at least 20 minutes early and go back late.  Again, I have been scolded by him because of that.  Let's said my working hours id 9 to 5, my boss want to reach office by 8:45 and go back around 5:30.  But of course not every day like that, only certain day.  But for him, even I late for 10 minutes, he scolded me already.

One thing makes me so upset is he asked me go to body check as no baby after few months married.  My in law also the same, keep pressure me on this matter.  My sister told me not to worry, just relax and don''t pressure myself too much.  But I don't have a good husband, from what he said is I am the "problem".

I remember got 1 day when I went to Hypermarket with him. Suddenly I was fainted and admitted into hospital.  I am too weak and too pressure.  

~~ To be continue ~~

   

Outdoor activities for children

Last Sunday I decided to bring my children to playground.

We went there around 4:30pm, my 2 cuties very excited upon arrival. Both keep on saying "playground" inside the car.  I know both were very excited. :)

As normal, I talked to both : Don't go far away without permission from mama & papa. Ko Ko (brother) must take care of your mei mei (sister) ~ where I know is hard to him. 

My boy holding his papa's hand and walking very fast to playground. Me and my girl at the back, and my girl is waving to her brother ask to wait. hahaha

We let them play ~ a totally free play but of course me & my husband always keep on eyes to both.  Watching them play the slides, swing, merry-go-round etc ... After play for a while, my husband suggested we all go for a walk.  Then both also agreed and start their "jogging" on the track. hahaha ... my boy ran quite fast with his papa.  My girl and me walking at the back, not jogging.  My girl was feeling tired already.  We all walked for 2 rounds before taking a rest.  I can see both were having so much fun on it.

After the jogging or just "walking" to me & my girl, we take a rest at the nearby cafe.  The I change both shirt due to sweat, both just like coming out from bathroom ~ from hair to toe ~ all wet.

After a rest, we going home for dinner.  On the way back, my kids were still in excited mode, and told me both are actually very happy to go to playground. I will sure bring them go again & again, since is good for them too. 

Working mama

11 May 2012

Sometimes I really feel tired when back to home from works.

At office, so many pressure on works. At home, pressure from kids.  OK, I admit sometimes I feel happy when I hug my kids. But the only thing that when I need a short rest, may be just less than 30 minutes, why I can't have it ?

May be I'm too stressed.  I feel angry when they did not listen to my words.  I feel like crying.  How come the man in my house never think of that ?  How come he can go out and take a break, come back home late, and never think of us at home ?  Even he at home also, never lend a hand !

I'm tired ....................................................

I rather he go out everyday and better don't come back home.  We seldom chat nowadays, except about children things.

Tired at office ....... Tired at home ...... Tired at all ......... :(

If I can choose, wish to go back ~ to the time I never met him !

Drawing on the Wall

I saw my little girl run to bedroom with a book and a pencil. I told her cannot write on the bed, and she replied me: "ok"  ** my little girl is 2 years old.

Then I heard my boy and girl were laughing and keep saying ABC. At first I thought both were learning ABCs and suddenly I heard my boy screamed to me. "Mommy, mei mei (sister) drawing on the wall !"

I stood up and walked to the bedroom and I saw she holding a pencil and is drawing a big cycle on the wall.  I looked at her, she looked at me with a cute smiling face.

"Who ask you to draw on wall ?" ... she didn't said anything but she know that she done something wrong.

"Ko Ko, why you didn't stop mei mei when you see her starting to draw on the wall ?" ... He keep quite. 

Actually I didn't blame him but I just want to make him know his role as a brother. He did 50% right by calling me and he is 50% wrong as he didn't stop her from that.

"OK, since you draw it. Here, is the rubber. Now I want you to clean off all your drawing. If you can't clean all, no milk for you tonight."

At first, she was so excited to clean and after 3 minutes, she started to feel bored and want to go away. I was holding a "rotan" in front of her.

"Mommy will not going to "rotan" you if you clean all your drawing."  I told her.

She looked at me with her innocent face and start to look for "help"

Well, since she is only 2, and already clean off almost half of her drawing. I pretend I didn't see/hear it. Her brother was come to 'rescue' her. And I walked away to prepare their milk.

I came back and I saw their daddy on cleaning the last part. He asked both : "Do you still want too draw on wall ?" Both answered : "No, sorry papa sorry mommy."  

I told both : "the wall is not for drawing purpose, you may draw on a paper or drawing book but no wall, understand ?"

Both answered : "ok, mommy!"

That day onwards, both never draw on the wall ...  hahaha ... cheers !!

31032012 ~ My feeling to both cuties tonight :)

ok, i'm looking to my both sleeping manja here ... I notice both grown up very fast ! the legs so long already ! Time really flies ~

I feel so warm when I see both sleep or play together, both have their own "bantal busuk", holding each other hands while walking, etc... hahaha. But, sometimes (or most of the time) both like to gaduh / rebut & complaint on each other. Honestly, sometime I do feel a bit fussy with the complaints. :p

I can see even though both sometimes will turn to enemy, but still can feel both actually very care to each other. When I ask to my DS (5 y/o) : Mei Mei so naughty, you both like to fight for everything. Then let mei mei stay with po po (babysitter).

After I finish my words, my DS cry and ask me bring mei mei home. He don't like her because she will rebut his toys, but he love her because she is his only sister.

Whenever I give them eat any food, mei mei will take 1st then she will said need 2nd pcs for ko ko. I said mama will give ko ko, but she refused. She want to give her ko ko by herself.

I'm just loving both of them ~ This is my feeling while I looking to both of them now ... in sleeping mode ! :)

31.03.2012 ~ 10:00pm

Looking for Milk for your children ?

Many mothers having this problem when children turn older or no more breastfeeding. Here some useful tips before buying milk for children.

There are many different types of formula milk in the market. So, which of these is the best for my child ?

For me, I will choose based on the nutrition information provided first. Secondly, it's come to the price itself. Whether can I afford to buy for my child. 

Whole Milk - also known as full cream milk. It has nothing added nor removed from it and is processed to kill any harmful microorganism for sale consumption.  Whole milk is highly recommended for growing children as it contains 3.5% of fat, which is important for growth and development.

Skimmed Milk - milk has already been processed to have most of or all of its fat content removed. Its reduced levels of fat-soluble vitamins, especially vit-A. Thus, it is not recommended for children.

Fortified formula milk - comes in powder forms and are fortified with various additional nutrients.  Some even firtified with fatty acids DHA and AA, which claimed to improve brain development. There are 3 major types for formula milk : Cow's milk formulas, Soy-based formulas & Hypoallergenic formulas.

Cow's milk formulas - it is easier to digest and has the right amount of nutrients. 

Soy-based formulas - for children that cannot tolerate cow's milk formulas or are intolerant to lactose.

Hypoallergenic formulas - much easier to digest, and less likely to cause allergic reaction. This normally used for children who have family history of allergy.

The most important thing is your child like the milk or not. So before you know your children like the milk you choose, just buy a small pack to try it out.  I was doing the same to my son and my daughter when both turn 1 year old and buy a small pack for them to try.  Once they like the milk, then I go for larger pack. hehehe ..

Get Ready to Brush Your Teeth, Baby ~ :)

Well, I am starting to introduce my little girl on toothbrush when she turn 1 year old. But I didn't apply to her directly. I just show her: "dear, this your toothbrush"  She look so curious on it and try to hold it and even smell it at the first time contact. Hahaha

To keep clean of her mouth, I use to wash her mouth everyday from the day she was born, using a clean and wet (wash with warm water before apply to her) small face towel to clean her mouth. So, she don't have a "weird" feeling while washing her mouth. 

When I notice she start teething, and I took out the 1st toothbrush to "brush" her little teeth. She so anxious about it till she bite the toothbrush. hahaha ... until now she is having almost full milk teeth then is using her 3rd grade of toothbrush now.  I try to put a very little bit of children toothpaste on it ~ as known, she swallowed it instead of pitting out the water.   

Everytime after milk, I will give her a little bit of warm water to drink.  The purpose is to wash away the milky taste inside her mouth and on the other way is to protect her teeth also.  Praise to Lord, my both kids so far do not have any teeth problem.  Even last time I am breastfeeding, I also give her some warm water to drink after milk.  Nowadays, when people see my both kids like to drink warm water, their are so impress and will ask: "How come your kids like to drink warm water ? Why my kids so avoid of warm water whenever ask them to drink ?" I told them my way, even is not necessary or not so recommended by doctors - I'm still giving my kids drink a small amount of warm water since baby time.  My kids just like other kids, they like sweets, chocolate, ice-cream etc. But after all these sweet bites, I will ask them to drink water to clean their mouth.

I bought the pigeon baby training toothbrush. I bought the same training tools for my son last time.  For me, is very useful and that why I buy 2nd set for my little girl.

I like these toothbrush because easy to handle :)

Now everyday I brush her teeth, and so far she like it. Whenever she heard I'm calling : "Come, time for brush teeth !"  She will run into washroom and be the 1st person to step in. hahaha ... her brother is 2nd.

Whenever she saw her brother going to brush teeth, she will come in and waiting for her turn to brush her teeth also. After brush teeth, I will compliment both of them for being so good to take care their teeth.  Both actually are so happy with it.

I am actually have my own schedule to train my both kids on this kind daily routine task without saying that they must know all this by early age.  I notice some mothers are very keen to train their baby in the very early stage, but for me, I just make it a relax task for me and my kids. No hurry but just try to train them whenever their are ready. Mom knows when is the right time ... :)  

三手烟对小孩的危害。

什么是三手烟？ 听到新闻报导，我才如梦初醒！

我们的周围多有人吸烟。就算政府再怎么努力去放那些“不要吸烟”的广告，就连印刷在香烟盒子的图案有多么令人吐舌，还是有人吸烟的！

在孕妇面前吸烟是最可恶的！！ 因为，不但是孕妇吸入2手烟，肚子里的宝宝也一样吸入了。一般人会认为，我不在她面前吸就好了。但是，他们没有去考虑到他们身上还残留着那些毒气。为什么就算那人没吸烟了，我们还可以嗅到烟味？我好气那些只以为是的人。尤其是，对着小孩也不会考虑这问题的人 ！


美国哈佛大学小儿科助理教授温尼科夫博士等创造“三手烟”这个名词，藉以形容他们的新研究发现的这些有害化学物质。该研究发现，除了众所周知的二手烟之害，婴幼儿还面临更不易躲避的“三手烟”威胁。他们表示，该新名词是指点燃香烟释出的有毒和致癌粒子、气体，它们附着在吸烟者头发、衣服上，还沾在椅垫、地毯上，在吸烟者离开之后，久久不消失，让婴幼儿受到隐形杀手之害。


点燃的香烟释出的化学物质包括重金属、致癌物质，甚至辐射物，如果让在地上爬行的婴幼儿沾手或放到嘴里，非常危险。据分析，这些有毒成分包括氢氰酸、丁烷、甲苯、砷、铅、一氧化碳、钋201等，共有11种高度致癌化合物。

爱护自己，爱护别人 ！ 不要自私 ！ 不要自以为是 ！ 给我们的小孩一个健康的环境成长吧！

Happy Mother's day 2011

Dearest all beautiful mama ~ Happy Mother's day !

Well, I am a mother of 2 pretty kids. Federer is 4 years old & Celeste is 1 year old. Both are my sweeties ! Mama have to say sorry as sometimes I scolded both of you. Mama love both of you, very much indeed.

When I become a mama, only I realised how hard my mother to teach us. I'm the youngest in my family, and my mother did take good care all 6 of us. Now, my mom is old and not active as she was young. When I teach my own kids, I will at the same time think of my mom - how she teach me last time. Mama, I love you !

This powerful 3 words ..... I think only 1 time I said it out to you through phone. I remember that time I was alone in Labuan and I called you that night. Asking permission for dating with a guy - which now become my husband, your son-in-law. You was so worry as me was alone away from home, I know you worry that me will get hurt or anything unhappy happen to me. I cried, told you that I love him, asking her blessing. At that time, I told you: mama, I love you. I love you more than him. But I promise to take good care of myself. I heard you cried, and you blamed me for making you crying also. You and father always in my heart, always no.1 in my heart.

When I look into my own kids now, the only thing I want is both always happy and grow up in good health. My babies, my sweeties, my cuties ........ I will not pressure both of you on education or else. I only need both of you become a good boy & good girl. 

I am happy to have 2 child in my life ~ I wish myself had a happy mother's day ! 

珍惜

人啊，当年纪越大，就会觉得慢慢觉得身边的人与事都在不定的改变。每一次都会听到别人说：要珍惜身边的一切！但是，有多少人真真正正能够做得到？？我自己也不可能完完全全办得到。

每当有天灾发生，每当听到有人逝世的消息，心里面都会想，要争取多一点时间来陪伴家人，特别是老人家。但是，过了一会儿，忙碌的生活就会把这念头打消。

“不要等到那一天才来后悔” 。。。 对！但，讲容易做就难。好多时候有很因素，不是你可以要怎样就怎样的。尤其是，当你是已经结了婚，双方的父母都要取得平衡。

人。。。就是这样的，失去后才会后悔。说一大堆的后悔的话，劝其他人要珍惜，不要和他一样的后悔。这样做是没有错的，是对的。他不想别人也像他一样的后悔。所以他奉劝要珍惜，要惜福。。。我也看了很多很多类似的“故事”，心好酸，泪会流，感动，感觉自己也是没做好自己的本分， 好惭愧。

但是，这样子的感觉，只能维持一个很短的时间。过后，就回到平常一样的生活了，对吗？？到底要怎样呢？？ 好矛盾！我不想我是后悔的那个，但是，也不能每次去陪家里的父母，要不然，会被说整天都回娘家，也不带会婆家等等。。。女儿嘛！都是想回自己的家比较多，也不知道是什么原因，就是会想回自己的家看看。每次回到家的感觉就是好舒服，有一种被疼爱的感觉！这种感觉是不会在婆家找到的。。。在那里只会有一种奇怪的“亲切感”。可能语言上沟通不来吧！不过，无论如何，还是要带小孩回去看公公婆婆的。

还是那一句话：尽量和家人多多聚在一起吧！爸爸妈妈的年纪不小了，周末就和他们一起去喝个早茶，逛逛街吧！

Strongest Earthquake + Tsunami devastated Japan

http://www.worldvision.com.my/

11 March 2011 is a day which every human in the earth get shocked when received a news from Japan - strongest earthquake as 8.9mag and later declared as 9.0mag at Miyagi, Japan. Many of them still missing and the rescue team is still on searching.

We here nothing can do much, keep on praying for them, pray for the calm back to them as soon as possible. Pray for the rescue team, strengthen their heart, pray for the victims.

Beside praying, we here also can donate some to the victims through some organisation like: World Vision, Malaysia Res Cross Society etc... 

3月11日，真的是一个很难忘记的日子。日本遭遇9.0级的大地震，随后就是大海啸。整个宫城县变成了海洋，好多人都失踪。拯救队伍还在努力的寻找失踪的人 。。。

我们可以做的就是不断的祈祷，希望平静尽快到来，天灾人祸快快过去。我们也可以透过一些慈善机构去捐款。希望小小的捐款可以帮助他们解决目前的问题吧！

Injection Schedule for baby

I have heard some parents saying about the schedule of injection for their baby ... more or less, there still same no matter your baby was born in private or government hospital. Parents will received a card whereby printed when your baby should take the injection.

In generally, there is some compulsory and optional injection you have to understand. You may consult your pediatrician about the necessary on taking those optional one. 

For me, I will let my kids get all the compulsory injection from pediatrician. For the optional one, I always consult with my pediatrician before making any decision. I understand that new parents may worry like why my friend's baby take many injection ? do I need to do the same with my baby ? why they like this and that ? Am I need to follow ? Well, I am also new mama. Whenever I heard what's from my friend, I will consult my pediatrician or some child's expert. But at last, the decision still on mine.  

Some people may like to "scare" you that if you take that optional injection, then chances of getting x x x x x x x ..... and especially to those new parents will feel worry on it. Then immediately bring baby for the injection, is not saying not good but as a parents, you have to understand and get advice from professional rather from "auntie" talk, right ??

So, my advice to all new parents ~ always consult with your pediatrician or child's expert before making any decision.

Choose formula milk for 1 year old baby ...

Which formula milk suitable for my 1 year old baby ?

It's kinda a headache problem, as you may worried after change to new formula milk, baby might not get use to it. Baby may have constipation problem etc.... 

I still remember last time my son turn 1 year old, I have change many formula milk for him ~ waste my money. I bought the smaller pack or tin for him to try. As you see he like the milk, then you will consider buy big tin for him. Then after a month, he stop drink the milk then again change another formula milk ~ huh ... at that time I am quite frustrated. Till I change him to Pediasure ~ the most expensive formula milk ~ only then he start to drink milk again. 1 tin cost about RM100++ and only can serve less than 1 month (my son can drink up to 8oz in 1 time), and after few months, I try change him to GainPlus, luckily he accept it till now.

Now, is time for my little girl .... I wonder is she will be same like her brother ?? This time, I will request a sample from the supplier also. But honestly, they only give you few packs and up to 1 or 2 days only. It is very difficult to judge whether she really like it or not. So, the same thing I will do is, go to buy small tin or refill pack first. If she really accept it then buy the big tin. hahaha ~ 

Now many choices for you to choose - from cheaper one to expensive one / or may be you will consider based on the nutrition provided / from local manufacturer or imported formula milk ~ is all depends on you to choose the most suitable one for your baby.