哭是万能的吗？

身为父母的，一定有过这个经验吧？？

原本带着小孩去逛街，因为某些商品或一些事情，孩子开始耍起脾气来。你不可能每次都顺着他， 所以你偶尔会不答应小孩的要求。 这时，小孩就会开始耍赖，开始哭给你看，在严重的就是赖着地上不走。相信一定有看过这样的情形吧！

在某一些晚宴，你可能会看见一些小孩到处乱跑，爸爸妈妈在后面叫着他们回来吧？为什么他们不能够坐好好？ 为什么吃饱了就要走开？你不给他走，他马上哭给你看，让你难堪。 10个小孩之中有那么1个小孩会呆在父母身边的，就算他很想下来跑跑，也只会在他父母座位的范围之内。。。有看过这样的小孩吗？

归根究底，其实是父母不够铁下心肠。我每次都会听到：“做父母的不回管教小孩” 这句话。。。而不是说：公公婆婆的错等。。。

我也是一个平凡母亲，很想把自己的小孩教导好。 所以，我会和一班朋友分享，纵而得知一些知识。曾经有一位朋友对我说，如果要小孩知道“哭不是万能”，你就要和你先生一起合作。 我自己也亲眼看到我这朋友的小孩，真的很惹人疼爱。

当小孩可以做的稳， 大约是9个月左右吧！你就要开始教导他了。每一次吃饱后，让他继续坐在他的椅子上。不需要说：“你可以离开了”。 你要让他明白，就算是他吃饱了，不代表他可以离开座位，到处走。。要看一看爸爸妈妈，他们还在吃，那就要守在他们的身旁。不要让他们担心。。

通常呢。。在这些时候，一定会有人自愿带小孩去“散散步”，这样子其实是不好的， 会给小孩一个不好的讯息：“看，我吃饱了就会有人带我去散步”。 久而久之，养成坏习惯。 每次小孩吃饱了，就会嚷着离开。爸爸妈妈不给，我就哭！那么，一定会有人带我走开。通常，老人家看到这情形，大多数会带小孩去“散散步”的。 所以，身为父母的就必须让老人家明白 - 为什么不应该带走他。 而不是我们不疼小孩或不让老人家疼，只是不想小孩被宠坏。

我的大儿子，有一次带他跑商场。他不知真么了，一定要去用左边的楼梯，眼前就有电梯他不要。我和他说了好几次，他硬着头皮，开始哭了起来。他甚至不让我牵他的手，坐在地上哭。好吧！我就让他哭，我也不要一味着安抚他。路人看到，都说：好可怜哦！ 但是，有些父母看到了就好像没事那样，可能他们的孩子也试过这样子吧！我知道那一刻，会很尴尬。而且，也可能会影响别人。但是，你要是“认输”， 你就永远被孩子牵着鼻子走。

好啦！他哭到没趣了。走到我面前来，对着我说：“妈妈，对不起”。我看着他说到：“好了，不可以有下一次了”。 然后，就牵着他下去楼下。

他要哭，就让他哭。把它牵到一旁，让他自己慢慢的哭个够。耐性，你一定要有哪个忍耐力去和他“斗”。。。一旦他知道，原来哭不是万能的，他就不会每次都用哭来威胁你啦。

我到现在还是很努力的去教导好我的小孩呢！！ 也真的非常吃力哦！

Children Cry In Public

Hey hey ... feel shame and angry when your child cry in public ???  I think most of the parents had this experience ... me either.  Have you ever think is our problem or you just said is your children problem ??  hahaha .... actually is parents problem.

Have you ever see a children sitting quietly on his/her high chair, even though his/her parents still having their meal ? or mostly you will heard crying or shouting, right ??

I had a friend sharing her teaching technique to me:  When your baby know how to sit properly, then is a time to train him/her.

Long long time ago, I was having dinner with family (that time my son was around 1 year old).  He is playing his toys and all adults having dinner.  Suddenly, he feel bored and try to get attention from everyone by knocking the table.  Then, as a mother, I have to stop him.  First time, talked to him softly: "you cannot knocked the table, you have to behave".  The of course, I didn't expect he 100% understood what I'm trying to tell him.  Few times later, I use to warn him if he continue knocking, I'll take your toy away.

He cry when I "scolded" him, and his grand-pa & grand-ma saw it.  I understand they will feel why I'm so "serious" to a young baby ... I can notice from all their eyes are complaining me.  His uncle ... try to "save" him from me, he want to bring him a walk, but I refused.  Let him cry till he stop ... don't bring him away and don't keep on look at him or try to compliment him also.  I know is a hard time for me to explain, but I know what is good for my child.

Honestly, I can't 100% stop them by taking him a short walk after they are full.  So, young children will have a mind-set that "I will be carry by them to go everywhere once they finish eating" ... this kind of mind-set bring trouble to parents.  Whenever they finish eating, they start to cry, and don't want to sit. They simply want a walk .... if that time, parents still having their meal, children start crying or shouting for a "walk", then here come the "hero" save them - bring them a walk.  How about the "Hero" still eating ??  I tell you, no one will care for that, but ask you - as parents to bring him/her away.  Back to earlier, who is the person try to make this kind of bad habit to a child ??

How many time you attend a dinner and sure you will see a group of children running around there ??  Out of 10 children, 9 are running around and only 1 will sit with their parents ... am I right ??  "Aiya .... never mind la, let them have fun" .... you will heard this kind of sentences.

My friend told me, if you don't want your child become 1 of that group, try to guide them well.  Teach them whenever parents are eating, "you have to sit together with parents even though you had finish your meal.  Have some tip-bites or toys to spend your "extra" time while waiting your parents finish".

Whenever he/she cry for "help", try to comfort and explain to them the situation. "Mommy or Daddy still eating, you can't go anywhere without parents around you".  Some adult may bring them away and told you I will take care of him/her.  Honestly, who will 100% take care our children while they're also having fun with their friends ??  People will only said: Why don't listen to your parents ? in case, if there is any accident happened.  Am I right ??

When my son was 2 years old, and I brought him to a shopping complex.  I promised him to let him play a basketball game after we taking breakfast.  But he was so naughty and cry for game, he refuse to have his breakfast.  He keep on crying till everyone turn they head to our direction.  I explained to him, I will only let you go after meal. If you still want to cry, fine, go on to cry.  After I finish my breakfast, then straight away go home.  No more game for you this time.  I don't care how others look or think at me ... I also heard they said "so pity o".  Me and my husband pretend like nothing and continue our meal till finish.  As I said earlier, we go home straight away after meal.

My son finally know his crying technique didn't work for that, and from there, he don't dare to "challenge" me or my husband simply for his favourite.  Well, we will inform him where we will go and what to do before go out.  We promised will bring him to theme park if he is well behaved.  If not, just go home.

Let them cry for unreasonable request, don't keep on compliment them while they're crying.  They will thought you scare of them and will repeat the same next time, if you don't give what they want.  Children are very smart, they know how to "control" the adults.  If you ignore them, they will cry.  Yes, let them cry till they stop themselves.  I saw some parents out there actually doing the same to their children.  The children stop to cry when he notice his parents "ignore" him, he simply feel "no point" for crying.  Then he walked to his parents  there and played with them .... hahaha ... just like nothing happened.  Do you got this ??  You know how smart are they now ??  I believe if you keep on saying: don't cry, baby ... he will sure turn up his volume till he got what he want.

I, myself still on learning and applying this kind of teaching to my son.  Sometimes, he really doing a good job.  If we bring him to any function or dinner - if without any "hero", he will stay at his place along the night.  If got the "hero" then my son will go away.  But luckily, he know that "crying" is not work to me and his father.  He will only ask for permission before leaving.

So, don't bring your baby go whenever he/she start crying for nothing.  Try to comfort her.  I know is hard, especially when other people around you offer to bring her away.  But, is true, that is wrong.  You are making a bad habit to a baby.  Whenever he/she cry, someone will compliment them.  If not, turn up the volume, then sure they will get what their want.  Is this what you want from your children ??

Don't blame a young children like to cry when they didn't get what their want .... just think back, who let them got this kind of mind-set ??  As a parents, really need to guide them well.  You have to let your own family member know that "I'm on teaching my children, and it's not a punishment to my children"

Will you feel shame if your children cry in the public ??  You don't have to, as you are actually on teaching them - crying will not means for everything.  Me ... of course, keep on going to guide my children !!

Sucking Thumb

hey ... my little girl coming to 9 months old.  She start sucking her thumb at 4 months old.... I try give her pacifier but she don't like it.  

I read many articles that most of expert prefer baby sucking thumb, the reason is baby is trying to comfort herself without your help.  Pacifier will drop off from mouth and, if sucking thumb, anywhere anytime can suck - will not drop-off.

Honestly, I really don't like my girl sucking her thumb.  I noticed her thumb nail become dulled and spoiled.  Many of friends ask me to stop her as really not good to her.  Her thumb will become "ugly" and always in wet.  The most important, is hygiene problem.  She start to crawl and touch here and there, you can't 100% guaranteed everything zero (0) dust .... My friend's sister daughter, now around 4 years old, still sucking her thumb.  Her daughter always having stomach ache problem and now she trying very hard to stop her.

I also have heard some suck until their shape of thumb become a bit strange.  Can you imagine, your nail almost 24 hours in wet, is it comfortable ?? how your nail look like ??  how your thumb look like ??  I don't think is cute but is dirty ..... so, no matter who ask me don't stop my girl sucking thumb, I will not care as she is my daughter.  I don't want my girl's thumb become "ugly" ......... I have to stop her before too serious ...

I trying to stop her, whenever I notice my baby want to put in her mouth, I will said : hey hey ... don't suck thumb... So funny is, she will slowly slowly pull out her thumb and smile to you.  When she want to sleep, I will offer her pacifier.  Then I let her wear mitten, so that she can't suck her thumb.  Day by day ... now she know I don't like her suck her thumb.  

This girl ... very naughty ... she try to cover her "action" with her blanket, hahaha ... funny.  I caught her few times and she will laugh to me when get caught.  I notice nowadays she seldom suck her thumb, she begin to accept her pacifier and I will only offer her when she want to sleep.  She seems not so interest sucking her thumb or pacifier while playing with her toys or when you cuddle her.  

I hope she can totally stop sucking her thumb by the later stage ...... pray for that  ^^

My 2nd Time Pregnancy Part 2 (Final)

I got a baby girl this time ... I notice my self really got differences from my 1st time pregnancy of my boy.  My foot didn't swollen like "elephant" foot ... and have good appetite to eat from the beginning of pregnancy.  

My due date is on 27th, doctor said its may be early as she said my baby size quite big.  She scanned and said my womb got a lots of calcium ??? means will be early delivery. hahaha ... ok, I just wait for it.

But I didn't get any warning till on 29th morning.  It was a rainy morning, and very nice weather to sleep.  My son suddenly woke up and ask for milk.  Once I stood up, I feel like my discharge come out.  Oppss .... I quickly go to toilet then yes ... i saw blood. Oh my ... I'm going to deliver today.  I quickly wake my husband, and inform him: your baby girl want to get out today.  I asked him to make milk for my son, and I quickly go to take a bath and wash my hair.  Hahaha ... note: no pain at that time.

Then we send our son to baby sitter house, and inform her I will deliver soon.  She so surprised and wished me good luck.  Because I don't feel the contraction pain, so I take my time to have my breakfast at my brother's cafe. Rush hours ... hahaha.  After breakfast, I admit to hospital around 9am.  Once the nurse checked, my cervix actually had open a bit.

I started to feel contraction pain around 12pm, every 5 minutes once.  Huh ... from the last time experience, I'm able to "handle" the pain.  I born my baby girl after few hours, this time really more easy for me.  My husband told me: "my hand almost cracked while you holding it".  hahaha ... ya, actually I want to bite if can.  Like previous, my husband did the "cutting" ceremony.  And is time for me to rake a rest ....

Now, my girl is 9 months old ... is a very happy & naughty girl.  hahaha

My lovely boy & girl

My 2nd Time Pregnancy Part 1

My 1st pregnancy was on 2007, and I born a baby boy.

This year - 2010, I born a baby girl ... If you ask whether got differences between baby boy and baby girl during pregnancy ?  Yes, for me, there is some differences.

Well, I found myself being pregnant on August 2010.  From the 1st time experience, I make up my medical check-up appointment with my previous doctor - Dr.Felice Huang.

My morning sickness gone after 4 weeks pregnant, Praise to Lord.  Compare to last time, my morning sickness only gone after 12 weeks.  I like to eat mee-hoon and fish fillet and everyday must eat at least 1 piece of fish fillet.  But I can't drink milk this time ... my doctor ask me to take some calcium supplement as calcium is essential and very important for pregnant women.  So I go to buy at Pharmacy - Abbott brand, Calcium plus supplement.  I consult my doctor and she said I can take that, but if I can drink milk is better.

Come to 12 weeks, I started to feel dizzy when I smell the cooking oil.  I even feel like vomit when I smell onion, I totally don't like garlic, green-onion and cooking smell.  yiakksss ...... I have to stay away from kitchen.  In terms of food, it's seems like I'm not so choosy this time, I will only eat a bit if the taste not so good to me.  The balance of food ... hahaha ... go to my husband and my son.

I like white fungus boil with red dates, almost once in a week I drink this herbal tea.  In chinese tradition, white fungus with red dates good for skin and blood circulation.  I also drink Lo Hon Ka bird nest, same - yummy and is a type of nutrition food also.

I feel like more energetic this time, even though, I still maintain sleep before 10pm every night.  After playing with my son, then I bring him to bed around 9pm.  My tummy looks bigger compare to normal 12 weeks pregnant women, hehehe ... may be I take too much nutrition food ??

But during my review, my weight and baby growing chart always fine, and that makes me feel good and means still in control, no over or under weight problem.  

When come to 2nd stage, my doctor ask me whether I want to know the gender of baby ?  I told her, I'm actually not so concern about the gender, I will only pray for healthy baby, boy or girl still is my baby ... hahaha.  She smiled and said may be next review only can confirm to me.  

Praise to Lord, I can drink milk and I simply stop taking the calcium supplement tablet.  I cannot eat papaya and orange color thing ... same as last time, will got some "marking" beside my lips.  This symptom same like last time, hate it.  Cause people may think why this lady didn't wipe her mouth clearly ??  

My baby gender only reveal on 7th months review .........

  

  

Pregnancy Part 3 (Final stage)

9th months ... My expected due date is on early December, but my doctor told me after 37 weeks baby can be deliver anytime.  Wow ... sound very excited but me started to feel nervous.  How to push ?? What should I do ??  I glad my doctor and nurse did teach and guide me since my first visit.

My friend ask me drink coconut fresh juice, the purpose is to reduce heat inside my womb.  But pregnant women only can drink fresh coconut after 9th months,  It's may cause miscarriage if drink too early.

Unbelievable, my weight up to 69kg ... my doctor told me as I got 166cm height, so still consider normal for me, no over-weight.  That's mean before I'm pregnant, I'm actually under the BMI.  hahaha

On 24th Nov night time, I go out dinner with my sister as my husband was attending his company annual dinner at Rasa Ria Resort.  As usual, after dinner they send me home.  I ask my brother come to accompany me as my husband not around.  Mid-night, I feel like going to toilet.  Once I stood up, oh my .. I'm leaking.  I quickly wake my brother, and told him I need to admit to hospital.  I called my husband, I told him I'm going to hospital because I'm leaking.  I ask him to drive carefully because baby will not come out so soon.

My brother still accompany me till my husband arrived.  Actually me was so nervous and excited too, as my baby will come out soon.  I'm praying for the smooth deliver and healthy baby.  I have to wait at least 10 hours for my cervix open till 10cm, but at that time, I don't feel any contraction at all.  So I still can have a rest till morning, but I simply cannot sleep well as too looking forward on it.

I stared my contraction pain around 10am, my husband was holding my hand and ask me to take a breath.  The nurse on and off come in to check how am I doing .... thanks to the nurse for being so nice and so understanding.  They cheer me up and ask me try to relax, don't think of the pain.  Yes, every mother need to over come the pain and give birth.

Contraction come every 5 minutes, my doctor coming to check on me and my baby ... she said: you doing a good job, try to relax, take a breath.  If really cannot stand the pain, just take the injection to cease the pain.  Of cause, it's still pain but will make you feel a bit better.  My husband look at me "Wanna take it ? Just take it if you need, don't worry " ... Yes, I want !  At least, it's help me feel better for a while ......

I was in labor room and my contraction pain come every 2 minutes ... but at that time, I don't think is every 2 minutes, is every 1 minute the contraction come.  So in pain ...... my husband accompany me to the labor room.  He was holding my hand still, and keep on encourage me.  The moments come, the doctor and the nurses all encourage me to push .... wow ... they counting for me: 1,2,3, ok ...pushhhhhh ... see, I saw baby's head, keep pushing ... Rita ... push.  Baby is coming out .... ok ok ... I get it.  No need to push now, congratulation Rita, your baby boy is here ... And, my husband did the "cutting" ceremony.

The next thing I heard is my baby crying ... sound like "I'm here" .... I touch my baby's hand, a tiny little hands,  so soft ... welcome to the world, my baby !! My pain automatically disappear, and the next minutes I only feel very very sleepy.

My doctor hold my hands and congrats, she said: well done, girl. You really a brave girl. Now, take a rest.  We will done the rest for you, don't worry.  Ya, I need a rest ....

Then the nurse bring me out from labor room, I saw my husband, my mother, my sister and my brother - all waiting outside.  I saw my mother's face. and at that moment I realised how my mother gave born of me.  I remember my mom said to me: now you are a mother of your baby.  My husband said: thank you.  They all said my baby's skin so fair and got many hairs ... hahaha

Finally, I gone through the all the stages and born a healthy baby boy.  Now he is 3 years old, and is a happy little boy.  :)

Pregnancy Part 2

Coming to 2nd Stage ... my tummy getting bigger and still sleep around 8pm.  My friend had recommended me to listen some soft music and get some free time to read some books.  I did that everyday, or even start to talk with my baby (i think is too early for that, haha).  My weight also gain so fast - from 50kg to 55kg, it's only take 5 months, 1 month gain 1kg ... huh.

I start to drink avocado milk juice as my friend told me is help to boost breast milk.  This really helps me a lot, I really got plenty of breast milk after give birth.

On the 6th month, I apply the cocoa-butter cream to avoid scratch-mark. Funny was I feel itchy after I apply that few days later.  Then I thought the itchiness is due to my tummy has become bigger, and I keep on applying the cream.  1 week later, I found my tummy got so many red dot and extremely itchy.  I can't sleep during night time till I cry on it.  My doctor said may be because my skin allergy to cocoa-butter cream and ask me stop applying it.  To stop the itchiness, I applied "vicks", baby oil, hot water, cool water ... but still can't help.  My doctor gave a aqua cream to apply on it, it is a non-medicated cream.  After 1week, my redness dot and itchiness slowly disappear.  Oh my, this was the hardest time for me to fight with the "itchiness".  It's telling me that not everyone suitable with the cocoa-butter cream.

Come to final stage ... my foots swollen when go into 8th months.  My shoes size from 6 change to 8, almost same like my husband.  My foot just like elephant foot ... sad ... I only buy 1 sandal to wear that time because is kinda waste of money to buy many shoes with the big foot, as I believe my shoe size will be back to normal later.

My movement become slow and walk style like a penguin, hahaha.  Me consider quite ok as I don't wake up at mid-night to toilet.  Before sleep, i go to toilet then till I wake up around 5am.  But during this final stage, I almost every midnight will wake up and eat 1 piece of cracker. That's why I put a container on my site table, easy for me to reach my food.  After eating and drink some water, I'll go back to sleep again.

My weight fly up to 60kg as I have good appetite to eat.  I randomly drink "bird nest" ... yummy, cause it's said good for baby and mother.  I go to buy Lo Hon Ka instant eat bird nest, and everyday eat 1 table spoon.  
Beside that, I almost everyday drink chicken herbal soup and "sup tulang" (cow bones soup).

People said Sup Tulang is good for building calcium, its taste - yummy !! :p

To be continue .....


  

Pregnancy Part 1

My 1st pregnancy did not come as easy as other people, caused I've try to conceive for 6 months but only successful on early 2007.  Before pregnancy, I've consult with my doctor and everything is normal.  Then the doctor recommend me to take Folic Asid for 2 months.  What is folic asid ? she said is a vitamin that helps me to conceive.  She said even taking folic asid, does not means you get conceived immediately.  The most important is relax, don't pressure myself too much .... well, i 100% agree !

To make myself free from mentally & physically pressure, I went to holiday with my hubby.  There, I was totally forgot about pregnancy thing but just enjoyed playing around. From a roller-coaster to high jump ... I was totally in fun mode ... hahaha.

Back from holiday, I found myself being pregnant.  Wow,  I was actually conceived (for few days) while enjoying my crazy holiday.  Gosh... I still playing roller-coaster cause I didn't realized of it.

Huh... my hard times is coming.  I started vomit and don't have appetite to eat. Get tired easily, Most the time, I went to bed around 8pm.  May be I'm just too anxious, or too careful.  I discovered myself got a bit discharge and was in nervous - what's happen to my baby ? I called my husband right away then go to see doctor.  Then doctor said may be I'm lack of rest, and need me to take medicine - Duphaston, for 1 week.
Duphaston is to keep the baby stable and healthy.  I was so worried and keep on praying on that.

I begin to write down what have I ate everyday.  So poor, I don't have appetite to eat and I only want to eat Kui Tiao goreng ... but only a bit.  I remember my husband angry with me as I only think of Kui Tiao goreng - not a nutrition food.

To avoid keep on vomit, I try to drink lemon water.  Why lemon water? because I can't drink any juice or soya.  I totally feel "full" when saw it, hahaha.

In the early stage - 1 - 3 months, so called critical months.  Have to be extra careful as baby not so stable yet, and heard some people said : you only can inform everyone about pregnancy after 3 months.  As some old folks believed only informed after 3 months to avoid miscarriage.

I start to read some books regarding pregnancy and asked my mother.  I always cut out the newspaper articles regarding the same topic also.  Find out there are some common things that a pregnant-mom should take note - don't carry heavy things, have a good rest, always in happy mode etc....

I went to routine check-up at clinic Dr. Felice Huang.   Feel very excited when she do the scanning, as I saw my baby is moving.  It was a amazing experience for me as a 1st time mom-to-be, and I received quite a lots of info from my doctor.

I drink 2 glasses of milk a day, should said praise to Lord cause I like to drink milk.  Before pregnant, I don't like milk at all.  I take multi vitamin recommended by my doctor and no others vitamin beside that.  My brother in law cook nutrition soup for me to drink, my mother also supply me with a fresh chicken to cook with.

My morning sickness gone when go into 3rd month.  I start can take more food compare to last time, but still limited the type of meal.  I like to eat vegetables and fish very much, and slowly slowly I'm able to drink soya.  People said drink soya good to baby skin.  Don't how true is that la ...

I eat fruits everyday, especially papaya and guava.  Don't know why I suddenly like this 2 fruits very much.  But later I found the left and right side of my lips turn to orange colour.  Just look like you didn't clean your mouth after eat, so obvious !  Then I consult with my doctor, she suggest me to stop taking papaya or something with the orange colour food.  Strange .... the colour fade after some times and she said may be is my hormone change.  

To be continue ..........

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LactoGG, AeroChamber Plus

Remember long long time ago, my son was suffer from flu and cough.  I was so sad to see him consume so many medicines but still cannot fully recovered.  I scared he will get asthma by the later stage.  So, I decided to take him to see the pediatrician at Damai area - Dr. Chan.

I informed Dr. Chan in detail how long / how is the sound of cough / what kind of medicines he has taken so far.  She was so in detail and introduced me using the AeroChamber Plus.  As she mentioned, using that will be less side effects and faster way to cure.  The most important is no need to take any cough medicine   Though, the cost of AeroChamber Plus is very expensive, I think is around RM90.00++, but is life time used.

LactoGG is a Probiotic and is a supplement to boost his body immune system.  As we aware taking antibiotic means to kill off all good and bad bacterias inside our body system.  LactoGG is to build back the good bacterias.  One day only one capsule and can be taken for long time.  LactoGG cannot be taken right after you took antibiotic, cause it will kill off the good bacteria.  Take it after few hours from antibiotic, at least 3 - 4 hours.

My son was fully recovered after 1 weeks taken the medicines.  I bought LactoGG from clinic again, the cost is RM4.00 per capsule, and 1 pack contains 30 capsules is RM120.00.  The nurse told me if I buy 50 capsule then is only RM170.00, got discount....

My son will go to school next year, and to prevent he get sick easily, I started to give him the LactoGG occasionally and hope can boost his immune system from now on.

Teething ~ Part 2

My girl is starting teething for upper gum at 8 months old.  I have read some articles that some babies having trouble or so called fussy compare with teething at lower gum.  Her upper gum is swollen and may be in pain, as she is reducing her milk from normal 5oz to 3oz.  She poo more than 2 times a day, but luckily she still like to consume plain water to avoid dehydrate.

I found my girl will be in bad mood occasionally and don't like to be disturbed by "stranger".  I try to give her something to bite but its seems like she much more prefer sucking her thumb all the time.  Then I give her a pacifier which I've stored in freezer, and I found her like the cold pacifier and start chewing it.

My baby sitter said use some herbal tea to wash her mouth 3 times a day, especially massage to her gum.  She able to drink more milk after wash with herbal tea as it helps reduce heat in her mouth.  Then I try to use the mouth wash (Pure Glycerine) to sooth her, and its work too. Just pour a bit mouth wash on your clean handkerchief and mix with some warm water then massage to the gum.

Teething really need a lot of passion.  Sometimes I really can't finish my works as she wants to be cuddle all the times.  And, sometimes really get frustrated easily.  I bought her teething rusks and teether to chew with.

I think all this will be ended as soon as her upper teeth come out from her gum.... huh.......

Baby Teether

1st Teething

My baby having her 1st teething when she come to 7th months old.  In another words : a "nightmare" begins.....

At first, I noticed she poo poo 2 or 3 times a day.  Then when I wash her mouth (I do it everyday), then I also notice her lower gum become a bit swollen.  Few days later, her let her wear bib due to "overflow" of saliva. Luckily she still consume milk as normal.

At that time, I'm really tired because she wants to be cuddle all the time.  If you left her inside her baby-coth, she will start crying.  She refuse to play with anyone or her toys till u cuddle her then you will see she smile to you.  What a naughty girl .........

I'm giving her the fever medicine as i noticed she is heat,  I also giving her plenty of water to reduce her body heat.  I know she is very uncomfortable and what I can do is try my best to comfort her.

Finally, her 1st teeth came out and is just like a sunshine to me.  huh.... me also can have a good rest.

鼻子清洁器 Nose Cleaner

小宝贝伤风了。。开始流鼻涕。 要每次帮他清理鼻涕，不让他做鼻涕虫。

但是啊，要清理鼻涕并非容易哦！他会左闪右避的不让你莫他的鼻子，而且，加上他也不懂如何把鼻涕“喷”出来，好想要打战似的。

医生建议我去买那些专为儿童清理鼻涕的用具。当然， 小孩也不会乖乖听话的。也得费牛马之力来抱紧他。我买了2种不同的理鼻涕的用具， 都是 Pigeon 牌子的；1个是用嘴巴吸的，另1个是用手指压的。

用嘴巴吸那个有一点麻烦吧！它有1条喉，连接两边吸口。一边对这鼻孔，一边放进口里。 用力吸，那鼻涕会流去拿瓶子里面的。不过，吸嚼的声音往往会害怕的。再加上是对着他的鼻孔，不怕就假啦！

另外一个是用手按的。我只要把那对口放进他的鼻孔里，一放手就可以吸出那鼻涕哦！不过，用这个呢，要小心的啦！不要倒转来用， 一不小心会把空气打进鼻子里面去的。所以，手指先压着那塑胶瓶，压着不要放，对准鼻孔，然后把手指轻轻放开，就可以把鼻涕吸出来的哦！记得，先压着，然后对准鼻孔，手指轻轻放开就可以了。压着是把里面的空气挤空，当你放开手指，外面的空气就会跑进去。相对的，鼻涕就会被吸进去啦！

Nose Cleaner Tube Type

Nose Cleaner

Baby will feel uncomfortable when their nose congested.  They even can't sleep well and you may heard their snoring because of that, especially when they are flu.  Baby may not know how to clean their mucus, so my pediatrician  had introduced me 2 types of Nose Cleaner.

One is nose cleaner tube type; and another one is use to press.  A first, I bought the Tube type but I found my baby was not comfort with the "sucking" sound.  When she saw I'm going to put near her nose, she already screaming for HELP ... haha.  So, I only able to do while she is sleeping.

The 2nd type - by pressing one. But this type need to be careful while using, you have to compress first before placing the soft nozzle into baby's nostril.  Never Never compress rubber pump while the soft nozzle is insert into baby nose. You have to compress BEFORE inserting ... remember !

Erm... when my baby saw me come with the nose cleaner, she already try to escape from me.  A battle begins ....... I think most of the babies don't like their nose being touch, may b ???

花胶 (Fish Maw)

花胶，其实就是鱼肚，是鱼鳔的干制品，富胶质，故名花胶。

记得有一次我的小孩咳嗽很久才好，妈妈就给我一些“蚊仔螵”炖水给他喝。妈妈说，他咳了很久，怕他的肺变弱，一定要补一补的。所以，我就照我妈妈的话炖水给他喝。


其实， 市面上有很多种类的花胶。我们普遍称有：马午螵，蚊仔螵，鱼螵等。因为形状差不多，颜色也一样，有时也搞不清那些是蚊仔螵呢！所以，要买一定要会看，或者到一些中药店买吧！因为，不同种类有不同价钱的哦！


我所买的是蚊仔螵，是委托亲戚在斗湖帮我买的。因为他们会看。而且，不怕被人欺骗。我花了差不多RM500.00 买了300g的蚊仔螵。里面一共有5-6片吧！但是，可以放很久哦！听说是真的可以治好咳嗽，气喘，化痰，补肺，补气等功效。有亲戚试过长期喝炖的水，把久久治不好的咳嗽都给完完全全治好了。他所谓的长期喝，是隔两三天喝一次。


一片蚊仔螵可以分来炖，像我都是把它剪成小小块的。每次只是用3-4片，约1 1/2大碗清水，加入几颗红枣或肉桂干，炖一整晚，明天早上就拿出来给小孩喝。因为，蚊仔螵本身有腥味的，所以加入红枣或肉桂干比较不会腥。 而且，喝起来还带点甜味，小孩会比较容易接受。


最常听到的是拿来煲汤，滋阴补肾，补肺等。坊间很多煲汤秘诀，不妨试一试吧！

Fish Maw, it's got different chinese name depends on the type. haha

The most expensive maw is called "Mosquito maw", why people called like that, is just because the shape of the maw just look like mosquito. And its taken from a deep sea fish, that's why is more expensive compare to other type of maw.

I bought "mosquito  maw" through my relatives at Tawau, because I myself don't know how to differentiate the type of maw.  Avoid been cheated, you may buy at those trusted chinese shop that selling traditional medicine.  Damai area got few shops that you can try look for it.  As far as i know, the price for this mosquito maw is very expensive, is cost me around RM500.00 for 300g.  But can last very long time .... :)  Actually it's quite worth it.

Last time, my boy was suffered a cough and last for a month.  After he fully recovered, my mother had asked me to use this mosquito maw boil a water for him to drink.  Traditionally help him build up his lung after cough so long.  Cough make our lung become weak, then we need to consume some nutrition food to make our lung healthy again.

I used to cut it into small pieces, and I only put in 3 or 4 small pieces, some red dates or dry longan to make the water sweet. Cook overnight then the next morning take out for my son to drink.  The taste not bad and my son like it.

In chinese cooking book, maw is good for health.  The common use is mix into the soup, or just boil a water like mine.  I had a relatives which got asthma, and because he continuously drink that, and after some times he was fully recovered.  I've heard people said maw is good especially to those suffer cough, phlegm or asthma  problem.

保婴丹 (Bo Ying Compound)

我在小孩3个月大时， 便开始给他们吃保婴丹了。 只不过每次的份量都很少，我都是加入他们的奶当中。 因为只有那么一点点， 他们也吃不出什么味道来。

小孩大部分都有胎痰的， 保婴丹的其中一个功效就是祛痰。所以，小孩的痰有时会随着大便而排出来。有时夜晚，小孩难免会难以入睡， 也可以让他们服用能够一点来安抚他们。验证了老人家说的：小孩夜晚难以入眠， 又哭又闹的， 给一点保婴丹好让他们好好入睡。

我现在每天都有给我的小孩服用保婴丹。 就如那店员告诉我， 其实它也是一种保健品。每天让小孩服用， 可以减少伤风感冒的几率。不过，当小孩真的生病了， 就要依照说明书上的指示来服用了。如病情延续，那么就要看医生了。我每次一发觉他们有点开始要生病时， 就快快给他们服用适当的份量。 有些时候真的可以阻止变成大感冒的哟！

因为我曾经听说有一些保婴丹是假冒的。所以，我每次都去余仁生买保婴丹的， 感觉比较有保障吧。一盒里面有6小瓶，价钱是RM33.00。如果是会员， 还有折扣呢！但是，如果小孩是先天性缺乏G-6-PD，是不可以服用此保婴丹的。盒子上可有注明的，千万别大意哦！

另外，我还会加入一点珍珠粉在他们的奶中。 如果我加了珍珠粉，我便没有再加入保婴丹了。所以，我每次都分开来让他们服用的。 珍珠粉末， 可以在中药店买到的。 大部分的中药店都有在卖，价钱大概是每一小包卖RM5.00左右。 据说也是可以帮助化痰的呢！而且，对皮肤也蛮好的哦！ 哈哈，我家小孩的皮肤都是美美的，可能也是这个原因吧！我很喜欢吃一个甜品，它是杏仁珍珠膏，上面写着：化痰，止咳，润肤， 养颜。所以，我相信珍珠粉也有它的功效咯！

Bo Ying Compound is another chinese traditional medicine for infants.  I start to giving my baby when their 3 months old and continuously giving them till now.  As the shop assistant told me, I can give to my children everyday to prevent them from sickness.

I bought my Bo Ying Compound from Eu Yan Sang, because I trust this shop.  I believe this shop will not sell anything not good to spoil it name .... hahaha.  Nowadays got many "pirate" medicine selling in the market, please be careful especially buying some medicine.

1 pack got 6 small tubes inside and its selling price is RM33.00.  BUT, infants who suffering from G-6-PD deficiency is not allowed to take this Bo Ying Compound.  Please take note ya!

Bo Ying Compound is traditionally used for phlegm, crying at night, fever, cold and cough.

坐月子

昨天接到一位朋友的电话，问我关于坐月的事情。其实，现代的人已经渐渐忘了很多禁忌了。我把我所知道的都说给她听，虽然我所知道的不是很多， 但是， 至少有一些细节还可以分享吧！

在怀孕期间，如果没有家人能够帮你在坐月期间的一切事务，最好趁早去找一位“陪月婆”帮忙啰！现在的陪月服务也蛮贵的哦！所以，要好好考虑一下咯！

坐月期间不能做的事情还蛮多的， 有些可能我自己也忽略了。 我所记得的有以下几项：

1.不能洗头发 ~ 因为怕进风，以后会很常头痛。  

2.不能碰到自来水 ~ 可能会导致风湿。

3.不能吹风 ~ 和上面一样，怕日后年纪大了，风湿+骨头痛。

4.不能站着吃东西或喝水 ~ 老人家说，年纪大了，大小便会难以控制。

5.不能哭 ~ 老人家说，会很快有老花眼。

6.不能堤重东西 ~ 子宫会下坠。护士说只可以拿与小宝宝体重相同重量的东西。

7.不能弯腰拿东西，因为大量失血后，可能会头晕。

8.不能坐太多， 要躺下来休息。怕日后会腰骨酸痛。

9.刷牙洗脸都得用煮过的水。

10.妈妈洗澡要用“学老麻”（客家语）煲过的水。 据说是可以祛风的。

11.宝宝洗澡要用苦瓜藤煲过的水，也有人用冬瓜煲水。 据说是散热的。

12.洗澡时，最好是坐着洗，不要站着洗。老人家说不好。

哈哈。。。好像很麻烦是吗？ 告诉你，麻烦的还有呢！最重要放松心情就好了。。。

就连吃的食物都要小心。 不能吃寒性食物，不过那时候的我， 也不会特别要吃什么的。我反而喜欢吃黄酒猪腰，黄酒鸡和喝药材鸡汤。进入第3个星期，我开始有吃猪脚酸。我每天都喝红枣水，从早到晚都喝。 是用红枣，黑枣和蜜枣一起炖的水。这个真的有效哦！它让我有足够的母乳给我的小宝贝喝。

因为我是以自然分娩的方式生下我的2个小孩。 所以，复原的比较快吧！ 我生了小孩当天，已经可以下床了。我还记得在医院时，我还不时跑出去看我的宝贝。

正因为我是自然分娩的，所以我有服用2种中药。1个是“追风丸”，另1个是“乌金丸”。这2种中药都可以在中药店买得到。

  

追风丸是祛风的，把体内的多余的气都排出体外。每天都放很多屁屁呢！

乌金丸是清理恶露的，把体内的恶露都排出体外。每次如厕时，要常常更换卫生巾，不要说怕浪费，因为怕细菌感染， 就算只是一点点也要更换哦！还有，每次如厕后，一定要那些清水来洗一洗下体。让它保持干净，避免细菌感染。

正如刚才所说的不能洗头发，但是，头皮会发痒嘛! 好难受的哟! 我自己用了一个比较"特别"的方法 - 就是把梳子放入清水中,倒入一点洗发精. 然后,把梳子洗干净拿出来抹干.你会发现梳子有香味的,然后我就这样子梳理好我的头发.而且,真的可以止痒噢! 最好就是在你要洗澡时弄, 因为,你也可以用洗澡的水来清理. 

关于母乳，我个人认为一定要喝多点汤水来补助。青木瓜煲排骨汤可以增加母乳，红枣水补血补奶水，药材鸡汤， 黄酒鸡汤等等。也要有适当和足够的休息，那样才会有饱满的精神去照顾好小孩。我试过因为太多奶水,导致我的乳房硬的不得了. 好辛苦! 宝宝那时候也已经喝饱奶了, 我就pump出来,放入冰箱里. 日后才拿出来为给宝宝喝.

我曾经听到我有一位朋友，她在坐月期间因为要做一些家务，导致她身体入风。一到晚上，她全身骨痛，不能做任何东西，也不能照顾她的宝宝。 好可怜！所幸现在的她已经开始慢慢的好起来了，她说现在每天她都喝一杯蜂蜜姜水来驱寒。

我相信每个人都有自己的一套，欢迎你们与我在这里交换心得。 无论如何，各位坐月子的一定要好好照顾自己的身体。那样才有能力去照顾小孩呀！

牙齿出来了。。。

最近有朋友问我关于小孩生牙齿的生理问题。因为每一位小孩的体质不同, 以下的贴士只供参考.

我在诊所曾经听到一位护士和一位妈妈的对话. 那护士说, 有些婴孩在0至3月间就生出了牙齿. 那位妈妈听了,吓了一跳说: 那么小就生牙了吗? 那护士答: 对呀! 有些婴孩的确会比一般的婴孩快. 然后, 那位妈妈就问: 那么早生, 那么就会很快烂啰 ? 护士答: 也不一定的, 最重要是牙齿护理一定要做好. 要每天帮宝宝洗牙齿, 保持口腔清洁就可以避免啦!

有些婴孩会在发牙时期会有不同的状况.  例如: 胃口不好, 腹泻, 发烧, 感冒, 身体不适等.  小宝贝会很爱闹, 很爱哭与闹情绪, 导致大人也不好受. 其实, 小宝贝也不好受的吧! 试想一想, 他们那嫩嫩的牙肉, 已经开始肿起来, 要等那牙齿生出来后才会好. 在这段等待的期间, 可能会痛吧! 但是, 他们不会说出来, 只能用哭来发泄吧! 大人也不是一样吗? 牙齿不舒服时, 心情也不好吧! 所以, 各位爸爸妈妈们, 要忍耐哦!

在发牙期间, 宝宝的胃口可能会变差. 原本可以喝120ml的奶, 现在只能喝60ml. 担心宝宝不够饱, 一定要宝宝喝完. 这是错误的, 不要逼宝宝, 那样做只会让宝宝难受. 建议不要泡那么多奶给宝宝, 少吃多餐吧. 有时可以弄些凉茶给宝宝喝, 例如: 金银花等, 市面上卖的"肥仔水", 也可以帮助舒缓发牙期间带来的不适.

宝宝的便便可能会比较烂, 比较稀. 要注意的是宝宝的腹泻程度, 如果太严重, 就要去看医生了. 免得宝宝脱水.  记得帮宝宝更换尿布时, 搽一些润肤膏, 好像 nappy cream 等去保护宝宝的小屁屁噢!

宝宝的口水可能会很多, 妈妈们就要注意咯! 时常帮宝宝擦擦口水, 或者让宝宝穿上防止口水流湿衣服的"口水巾", 嘻嘻嘻.  建议妈妈买一些可以让宝宝咬的小玩意儿给宝宝, 解一解宝宝的牙齿痕痒吧!

有一位朋友曾经对我说: 宝宝在出生后的第100天, 拿已经用水煮熟的虾子, 剥了壳, 放进宝宝的口里, 好像刷牙似的转动一下. 据说可以防止宝宝在发牙期间的不适.

还是那句话: 每一位宝宝的体质都不同, 以上只供参考哟!


     

  

小儿化痰中药粉 (Traditional chinese medicine for reduce phlegm)

我的小宝宝现在7个多月大了。 发觉她有时好像很多痰似的。前阵子，她伤风又咳嗽。 好可怜！ 那么小就要开始吃药。所幸，她快速的康复了。 如果她现在还是喝母乳就好，但是，我因为工作关系，母乳已经减少了。

我对于西药没有抗拒感的。 但是，好多人都说西药很“散”。 小孩吃了西药，手脚大多数会比较冰冷，出好多汗，特别累， 胃口会变差。反而，吃中药就不会有以上的所谓副作用。说实在的，我都不会抗拒西药或中药。

最近听到我的小孩有痰气， 所以就给他们吃宝婴丹。不过好像不能完全治好。

所以，我跑去中药店，老板介绍有一种化痰中药粉，还蛮有效的哦！它带有虫草，茯苓，甘草等的药粉，1盒里面有2小瓶。对于顽固的胎痰有效哦。我买了2盒给我家2个宝贝服用。我的大儿子服用后真的好了。 后来，我就给我的小女儿服用。可以听到她的痰已经慢慢减少了。没有再咳嗽了。有时小孩咳嗽是因为痰作怪吧！

现在，2个小宝贝都好了。胃口也好了。感恩！

I recently found out got 1 chinese medicine is good to remove phlegm, is not only for infant or children, but for adults too.

I have 2 childs, the eldest is 3 years old and the youngest is only 7 months old.  Few months ago, both had been suffered serious flu and cough.  I have brought them to see pediatrician and both was recovered.  But after few weeks, I found that they got "gru gru gru" sound inside their throat and start coughing.  I was thinking: oh my, don't tell me they going to sick again.

Honestly, both has been consume too much medicine (in my mind) and both also loss some weight because of sickness.  So, I was thinking not giving them clinic medicine.  I went to a shop selling chinese medicine at Damai, and I ask the shopkeeper whether got any chinese medicine is good to remove phlegm from a baby.

He recommended me 1 type of chinese medicine, it stated there is mainly for reduce phlegm and relief of cough.  Inside 1 pack got 2 small bottles, the cost is RM9.00 per pack.  

After he consume 3 bottles, I noticed no more "gru gru" sound and no more cough.  At the meantime, I also give some to my youngest baby, same as her brother, no more "gru gru" sound and cough.  Both were recovered and the phlegm was disappeared.

I did not means chinese traditional medicine is better than clinic medicine.  Is another option for you to cure yours children if having same problem.